Inspiration | 2 Years Down, Through Sickness & Health…

Yesterday hubby and I celebrated our 2 year anniversary. Thinking back on our year, I am extremely blessed and thankful. Last year we both dealt with some health issues and to be honest, I encountered some dark days. Yes, I broke down a time or two. However, it wasn’t because I was sick. When I’m sick, I can handle it. I roll with the punches and keep getting up. But when my husband was diagnosed with diabetes, I was heartbroken. I was numb.

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Realizing that your best friend and partner in life is sick puts life in perspective real quick. It makes you stronger as a person, but also as a unit. You have to be strong for the other person and deal with your breakdowns in private. God knows there were times I thought I wasn’t going to make it, but by His grace I remained strong, my faith tested but not lost.

I’ve never seen him in the hospital and I’ve never witnesses him being somewhat helpless. I was scared, so of course the first thing I did was call my mother. Thank God for a praying and compassionate mother. I needed to know how to be strong for him. I’m always used to him being super man, handling everything and taking care of me. After talking through things with my mother and praying on my own, I realized that I could be there for him because I had to. There was no option. I made a vow to be with him through sickness and health and while that part came faster than I was prepared for, I was equipped to be his rock.

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Through dealing with Darrius’ diagnoses, we have learned quite a bit, about ourselves and our marriage. Here’s a look at 3 things we learned:

Darrius’ 2 Year Lessons

1. Put yourself in their shoes. 

2. Date your spouse.

3. Trust the pace of your relationship; move at your own pace, with guidance from the Lord.

Whitney’s 2 Year Lessons

1.  Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.”— I Corinthians 13: 7-8 

2. Pay attention to your spouse. 

3. Marriage is what you make it.

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So tell me, what are some lessons you’ve learned in marriage along the way? Let me know!

As Darrius and I continue to thrive as a couple, we always remember to put God first and always have faith. My husband is getting healthier everyday – he is not allowing a diagnoses to control his life. Together, we’re fighting and we will be victorious! Marriage is fun, hard, worth it, but above all is it’s a blessing. Until next time, be blessed and stay safe…XO!

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Style | Another Casual Thrifted Outfit

Happy Monday! Although I was a bit under the weather this weekend, I still managed to hang with my family and enjoy some of the spring weather. I even did a little spring thrifting (on Friday). I stopped by 2nd Avenue (Value Villiage) and grabbed 2 dresses, 2 men’s button down shirts for myself and of course, a few items for hubby. There’s nothing like a casual thrifted outfit during the springtime, and the first place I scope out when thrifting for spring items is the men’s department.

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Sunnies: Vintage, Thrifted // Men’s Shirt: 2nd Avenue // Denim: JCP

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There are several men’s items in my closet. I find that menswear is the perfect place to shop for oversized and structured tops. The material of the button ups are usually lightweight and the prints are sometimes more fun and unique than those I find in the women’s section.

I’ve been a fan of menswear for years! From blazers, sweaters, outerwear and even accessories the options are endless. There have even been times when hubby and I fight over who gets a particular item. Yea, it gets that bad, lol! I usually let him win in the end…and just borrow the item later. 😉

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Clutch: Aldo (Old) // Cuff: Lucky Brand, Macy’s // Flats: Mossimo, Goodwill

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 So tell me, are  you a fan of my casual thrifted outfit? Have you ever thrifted a menswear item? Let me know!

Don’t forget to show off your personal style by linking your recent OOTD pots(s) below. Be sure to link your outfit back to this post. Also, visit the other bloggers who’ve linked up and say hey. Until next time, be blessed and stay safe…XO!

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#FearlessWoman Feature | Krystal of The Feisty House

Today’s #FearlessWoman feature comes from the lifestyle blogger and budding entrepreneur Krystal Scott. The author of The Feisty House lives with her husband in New York and she’s been a virtual source of inspiration for me for a while now. Her lifestyle blog is an amazing space on the internet filled with motivational posts, natural hair and makeup tips, thought provoking interviews and much more.

Krystal has a natural zest for life and it shows through her writing, photos, and how she lives day to day. Her entrepreneurial plans are inspiring and I can’t wait to see what’s next for her! Find out more about Krystal in her interview below.

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 What’s a typical day for Krystal? 

My days are a bit insane! I’ve been trying to wake up earlier in the day (so I can exercise), but my average wake time is about 7:30 AM. Then I get ready for work, grab breakfast and pack a lunch. I try to be out the door by 9:00 AM. I arrive at work at 9:30 AM and I work nonstop until my lunch break. I use that time to check my blog emails, do a quick check-in on social media, etc. I schedule my blog posts, blog-related tweets and Facebook posts as well as my blog-related Instagrams because I don’t really have the time at work to do all of that.  

I have been leaving work between 5:00 PM and 5:30 PM, which is great. I head home and spend some time alone before I start dinner and do some chores. After dinner I’m usually blogging and checking email, and I do that between8:00 PM and 11:00 PM. I try to write two posts within that time, but some nights I only get to the post for the next day! Blogging and having a full-time job definitely isn’t easy, and I’m constantly adjusting my schedule so that I can blog and also have time for friends and family.

What inspired you to create The Feisty House?

I started The Feisty House in graduate school when I was learning about how to take care of my naturally kinky hair. I’d been natural my entire life (never used chemical straighteners or even hair dye), but I quickly learned that I was doing everything the wrong way! I used The Feisty House to share what I was learning about my hair with other women. Fast forward five years, and The Feisty House is much bigger than natural hair!

The blog has involved into a space where I discuss and share inspirations related to lifestyle (personal style, home life, beauty) and entrepreneurship (including my DREAM JOB Interviews with Black female entrepreneurs and blogging tips).

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Who are your top 3 women inspirations, famous or non-famous, and why?

I could say my aunt and grandmothers and be done so easily! These women work so much. They’ve worked hard my entire life. It’s been amazing to see with my own eyes what women can do for themselves when they put their minds to it.

I’m also inspired by Arianna Huffington (I’m reading On Becoming Fearless for the second time this year), and all the entrepreneurs I’ve interviewed for The Feisty House. It’s amazing to learn from women who have looked fear in the face and started their own businesses (and become successful!) in spite of being afraid.

One piece of advice you have for women entrepreneurs? 

Share your stories. Because you have no idea how your experience is going to affect someone else. You may be just what another woman needs in order to make the leap into entrepreneurship. Those stories are so valuable and such an important source of strength for me and other women who are considering working for themselves.

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Where do you see yourself in 5 years?

I’ll probably still be living in New York, but also living in either South Florida or Jamaica for half of the year. And I’ll be working for myself, FULL-TIME! The Lord has yet to reveal to me exactly what I’ll be doing, but I know I’m on the right track. I’m excited about the future!

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Style | My New Firmoo Glasses

Have you ever put on an outfit and felt like something was missing? This happen to me the other day and after a few minutes of going back and forth, I figured out what was missing from my outfit. A pair of cute fashion glasses! I think glasses can be such the perfect outfit accessory! Even if the glasses are prescription, wearing a stylish pair instantly makes certain outfits complete.

That’s how I feel about my Firmoo glasses. I’ve been searching for the perfect pair of fashion glasses since last summer, but I must say that this pair is by far my favorite. I wanted a pair that fit my personality and personal style, so I went with these. Good choice, right?

Firmoo Glasses Review

Glasses: Firmoo

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When deciding what to wear this weekend, I knew I was going to wear my new specs. So I opted for an outfit with earth tones, and of course, leopard print. I’d been dying to wear my thrifted coat with fringes, so I added that piece to the look as well. This outfit, in my mind, is the perfect look for a weekend full of blogger events and family activities. It’s not too dressy, but not too causal and the heels add a little something extra to the look. I did carry a pair of flats with me, that I ended up wearing most of the day, but the idea and the effort I put forth to wear heels all day to 2 different events was admirable. 😉

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Top: Macy’s (Another Option) // Pants: Macy’s, American Rag // Shoes: DSW, Tahari

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Aside from the glasses, my favorite part of this outfit is the pants. These lightweight American Rag pants were $10 at Macy’s a few weeks back. I knew they’d be coming home with me because they’re very versatile. After trying them on in the fitting room, I came up with 3 or 4 different outfits to wear with the pants. I’m all about restyling, as I’m sure you’ve realized by now, so adding them to wardrobe was a no brainer.

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Fringe Coat: Thrifted, 2nd Avenue

Adding simple elements to an outfit, like the perfect pair of glasses, is a simple way to achieve a stylish or trendy look. At first I thought the glasses maybe too much, but I ended up really liking the final look. So next time you’re in need of the perfect pair of fashion (or prescription) glasses to complete your OOTD, check out the Firmoo glasses selections.


 So tell me, what do you think about my look? Are you a fan of wearing fashion glasses? Let me know!

The  Firmoo ordering process is simple, the glasses are affordable, and the selections are fabulous! If you’re thinking about ordering a pair, check out their BOGO Valentine’s Day Sale! And for new customers, you can get a 50% off code on the frames sitewide by clicking HERE

Don’t forget to show off your personal style by linking your recent OOTD pots(s) below. Be sure to link your outfit back to this post. Also, visit the other bloggers who’ve linked up and say hey. Until next time, be blessed and stay safe…XO!… 

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The Best of 2014 Personal Style Edition | What I’ve Learned About Personal Style

Happy Monday, everyone! This weekend was such a great one. Not only was I able to spend some QT with hubby, but we also got a lot of things done around the house. It’s that time of the year when I start cleaning out closets, drawers and everything in between. So, we did a little bit of that on Saturday and Sunday. By next weekend, we should be done….I hope. 😉

Today’s post is a recap of my favorite outfits from my Personal Style Monday posts. I started this linkup as a way to express my personal style and of course, I wanted to give you all a chance to do the same. I started out by having just 8 or so links for months and now I have 30+ linkups almost each week. I LOVE it and I thank you all for linking up and sharing my links each week. Check out some of my favorite Personal Style Moments of 2014, as well as some things I’ve learned about my personal style along the way.

Clearly I embraced my curves, wore a lot of dresses, and had no problem showing a little bit of skin earlier this year. I enjoyed experimenting with different looks, hairstyles and trends; all while staying true my personal style. I feel like my style has grown, yet has remained simple with a touch of uniqueness that only I can bring. I’ve “found myself” as far as personal style goes, and I’ve pushed my limits when it comes to what I will and won’t wear. Daring to bare my legs in certain outfits, like the black Jessica Simpson dress (above), was liberating and wearing shoes other than flats and sandals was huge for me.

I enjoyed wearing a bit more color this year and I wasn’t afraid to go bold with my outfits. I also learned the importance of knowing your body type. I know what looks good on me and what works for my body; 2 very important things to know when figuring out where to go with your personal style. Something else that’s important to learn while curating your personal style? Trying different things with makeup. For me this was tedious task, but I must admit that it was fun. Weather it was a lip color or a bit of mascara, I took myself to another level in terms of my day to day beauty routine. From makeup to skin care, I’ve re-learned the importance of taking care of my skin as well.

One of my favorite personal style posts this year involved statement jewelry. It was fun sharing my favorite pieces with you! Wearing statement pieces this year saved a lot of my outfits form being boring and blah. It was rather enjoyable styling different pieces and my collection has grown a lot since I published that post. I’d planned to do a separate post on how to shop for statement pieces on eBay, but I didn’t get around to it. No worries; it’s on the top of my to-blog-about list for the new year.

Of course I’ve stayed true to my love for thrifting. Showcasing different outfits with several of my thrifted purchases has been a personal style highlight. I’ve been able to influence others to try thrifting, as well as teach people how to successfully thrift for certain items. Thrifting is a huge part of my personal style and it will continue to be…forever. From thrifted accessories to sweater coats, I’ve had fun showing how to stay on trend without breaking the bank.


 So tell me, what did you learn about your personal style this year? Are there any your favorite personal style look from 2014 above? Let me know!  

Since this is the last of my Personal Style posts of 2014, I’ve decided to leave today’s linkup open until the last day of the month. Feel free to post as many looks as you’d like from now until then. Thank you all SO much for linking up with me and I look forward to seeing your outfits in the new year. Until tomorrow, be blessed and stay safe…XO!

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Personal Style Monday | November Style Recap

Happy Monday and happy December 1st! I know I’ve said this before, but it seems like this year has gone by super fast! We’ve made it to the last month of the year and I’m still in awe at how quickly the other months have passed us by. Nonetheless, I’m excited and ready to see what December has in store!

Today’s post is a brief personal style recap of my favorite outfits from November. I shared a lot of great looks, if I do say so myself, but my top 3 are those listed below.

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I tried my hand at a few fall trends last month. From sneakers and heels to the sporty trend (sweatshirt OOTD), I had fun expanding my wardrobe. As I continue to have fun with my personal style, I just may take a stab at a few more trends this month. I just might repeat a few too. Ya never know! 😉


So tell me, what’s your favorite look from November? Let me know!

Don’t forget to show off your personal style by linking your recent OOTD pots(s) below. Just be sure to link your outfit back to this post. Also, visit the other bloggers who’ve linked up and say hey. Until tomorrow, be blessed and stay safe…XO!

P.S. Congrats, Daphnee! You were my favorite style linkup from last week. LOVE the gingham and leopard print mix! 


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Wardrobe Wednesday | Wearing Tights with Black and White

Are you a fan of wearing tights? I haven’t always been too keen on the idea of wearing tights (or pantyhose) myself. I laugh when I think about it because my grandmother is a stickler for both, especially when attending church. Now that I’m older and can “dress myself”, I actually gravitate towards tights when it gets to be a little chilly outside. Needless to say, my grandma is pleased with this gravitation. 😉 Nowadays, I think of tights as a thin pair of leggings, and we all know how I feel about leggings; I LOVE THEM!

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Sweater: Lane Bryant Outlet // Skirt: I.N.C., Macy’s // Heels: Lane Bryant // Tights: Hanes Hosiery

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As a plus size shopper, I usually stick to the Spanx brand of tights, but I recently tried a pair of  Hanes Hosiery tights. To my surprise, I was very pleased. I went for the largest size which is IJ and I was very happy with the fit.  This black and white ensemble is very comfortable and easy to wear. It’s the kind of outfit I’d wear to work and then go straight to dinner with my girls afterwards. I can also foresee this outfit being perfect for an evening out with the hubby or an evening blogging event in DC as well. Wearing dressy flats, boots/booties, or even (the right pair of) sneakers is doable for this OOTD. I actually have another way to wear this look coming Friday – stay tuned! :-)

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Necklace: JCP // Watch: Charming Charlie // Beaded Bracelet: Gifted // Nails: Sally Hansen Insta Dri (Pink Blink)

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 So tell me, what are your thoughts on wearing tights this season? Are you a fan? Let me know!

Thanks for reading and as always, thanks for commenting. You’re words and support here on WNJ, as well as social media, have really been heartwarming lately. I can’t tell you how much I appreciate the love.

One more thing – I’m wearing this pink color on my nails as a part of Simply Chic’s Breast Cancer Awareness efforts. Since I started blogging, I’ve loved her blog and I’m thankful to her for showing much support with all my endeavors throughout the years. Read more about her Breast Cancer Awareness story here. Until next time, be blessed and stay safe…XO!

P.S. Don’t forget to link your recent OOTD to my Personal Style Linkup HERE

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*I was given a pair of tights by Hanes Hosiery to review. All opinions and thoughts are my own.*

LifeStyle Feature | Marie Young of GoodLooknOut

I’m really excited about today’s post because it’s another installment of my LifeStyle Features here on WNJ! I met this blogger at an event in D.C. 2 (or so) years ago. I remember thinking to myself, “she’s the cutest pregnant woman…ever!” I soon realized that her warm personality and sweet spirit matched her outer beauty.

Marie, creator of GoodLooknOut, is your “your (online) big sis who’s always lookin’ out”! GoodLooknOut is a site that keeps you up to date with the latest trends, introduces you to the hottest bloggers, and points you in the right direction for great meals, entertainment and so much more. Trust me when I say, it’s a site that you’ll want to bookmark, for sure. Enjoy Marie’s interview and don’t forget to stop by GoodLooknOut to experience all its greatness for yourself! 

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ABOUT YOU + YOUR STYLE

Where are you from and what’s your occupation?

I’m from Pasadena, California but I currently reside in Sacramento, California. I am a woman of many hats, however currently, I’m a self employed Digital Strategist for a few folks.

How do you define your personal style?

My personal style is eclectic + minimalist. I like balance in my wardrobe, so I may wear all black one day with a signature accessory piece to set my whole outfit off.

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Name 5 must have wardrobe staples every woman should own?

– Black Strappy heels

– Daisy Dukes

– Black pants

– The cutest white tee

– Gold sandals


ABOUT GoodLooknOut

How long have you been a blogger?

For a little over three years and it’s been a very interesting ride too!

What inspired you to start GLO and what is your vision for GLO?

I was unemployed, bored and pregnant! I read a lot of blogs and decided, hey, I can do this. Never thought I’d go psycho crazy and fall in love with it! My vision for GLO is to create an online destination, for women to share, learn and most importantly be inspired into growth. You know, look out for one another!

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What is the definition of a GLO girl?

GLO Girl is witty, caring with a intense desire to help a fellow sista out. Pretty simple!

What’s the best and toughest thing about being a blogger?

The best thing about blogging are the relationships you form with other bloggers from all over the world. I’ve made friends with people, I’d never come to know in my usual day-to-day routine. I can go to any city and always find something fun to get into because of the relationships I’ve formed with bloggers from all over.

The toughest thing about blogging is being able to stomach trolls and negative comments. As bloggers, you put yourself out there for the world to see and, unfortunately, not everyone will like what you put out there. Some bloggers don’t even dare to read the comments after pressing the publish button and I know exactly why. Getting over the hump of not caring what others say or think is easier said than done.


ABOUT YOUR LIFESTYLE

What makes you happy & what inspires you?

Growth inspires me and makes me happy! I love the feeling of mastering something or being able to take a lesson from an experience. The relationship I’ve formed with myself and my higher power really keeps me going too. I love the fact that through faith, I’ve been able to always see the glass half full and “go with it”, so to speak. I’m also inspired by people who speak life into themselves and into others. You know those people you meet who make you want to do better, challenge you and have the unique ability to make you feel uncomfortable. These are the people my mind has always been attracted to. I find them and then I do what I can to keep them around.

As a wife, mother, and entrepreneur, how do you find balance in your everyday life?

I actually try my hardest to follow this zen checklist I created a few weeks back. It took me until 29 years of age (omg did I just reveal that) to realize that life without a sense of balance is no life at all. I’ve tried hard to take hold of my life with proper time management, scheduling time to do absolutely nothing and ensuring that I’m spending time cultivating my creative needs. Don’t get me wrong, there are still those times where I absolutely FAIL and nothing gets done AT ALL!

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What are 3 things you do daily to maintain a healthy lifestyle?

(1) I go to boot camp three times a week, (2) try to eat as many small meals as possible throughout the day and (3) drink an insane amount of water, sans any soda whatsoever. This is the only way, I feel, you will make it in this process, junk food infested world.

Any advice for someone who’s trying to find their passion and purpose in life? 

Stay focused, stay committed and stay in your creative space as much as humanly possible. Things don’t always come together until that moment you’ve worked so hard that even you think you’re about to go insane. Then, BAM things will slowly start piecing themselves together!


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