WNJ Inspires – Feeling Burned Out…and Saying No

Is it me or is there a “Feeling Burned Out” epidemic sweeping the nation? Every day I hear at least 3 people tell me that their exhausted, burned out or just plain tired of something. C’mon, I know you’ve felt it; so much to do and just not enough time. Feeling overwhelmed, stressed and eventually burned out.

Well, I know I’ve been guilty of feeling this way. I literally felt like I was being pulled in a million different directions, I was constantly on edge, probably not a pleasure to be around, and just tired. I was even considering putting my blog on hold. Like, for real. Brain was out of order and I was ready to throw in the towel. Thankfully, I was able to get through these feelings and figure out what the root of the problem was - I was doing (way) too much. 

Doing too much is the quickest way to start feeling burned out. As a blogger, there are so many wonderful opportunities that come your way. But do you have to take advantage of all those opportunities? You may feel in order to “get ahead” as a blogger – whatever that means to you – you should jump on every opportunity. Even if you’re not a blogger, you’ve probably felt the same way at one point. I’m here to tell you that there is power in saying no. Granted, I don’t have hundreds of brands clamoring to work with me (yet ;-) ) but there are still opportunities that I’m presented with on a regular basis.

I’ve learned that saying no to somethings doesn’t make me a bad person. Saying no (to an opportunity) isn’t going to hold me back from what God already has planned for me. I may reach my goal later than I expected, but what God has for me is going to be for me. Period. Same goes for you. Don’t stress yourself out doing so much (for other people) just to get ahead. The one thing you don’t want to happen is this – you’ll spend so much time fulfilling other peoples dreams and expectations that what you what you’re trying to accomplish becomes non existent.

As a blogger, I suggest saying yes to the opportunities that match your brand and vision. Eliminate the opportunities that don’t speak to you, even if you see that other bloggers are doing it. If it’s not your wheelhouse, keep it moving. And truth be told, if you say no to something that could have propelled you, (and your blogging career) it’s going to come back around. Maybe not the same way as it was presented before, but it will come back. Like I said earlier, what God has for you is for you.


So tell me, are you feeling burned out or have you felt this way before? Do you believe there is power in saying no? Let me know!

As always, thanks for reading and commenting. Your feedback, emails and comments have really kept me going on days when I was feeling burned out. :-) I hope you all enjoy the day and I”ll be back tomorrow. Until then, be blessed and stay safe…xo!

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  1. says

    Whitney,
    This is is on point! A few years ago I launched my photogrphy business (as a side job on top of having a career and a family). In the beginning I accepted all photography jobs whether it was something I wanted to or cared about. This was stretching me really thin. Until, one day I simply said NO to a job that wasn’t even something in my portfolio. It felt great and it allowed me to reassess exactly what I wanted to do with my photography skills. I then focused only on my niche and accepted jobs only in that niche. It cleared up so much drama and that overwhelming feeling you get when there is way too much on your plate. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this.

    Thrifting Diva
    http://www.thriftingdiva.com

  2. says

    Great post Nic! Saying NO to your needs is not an option but Yes to others can deter you from elevating your life, and we have to know when to press the brakes. All of this comes with maturity and we all get better with experience.
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  3. says

    I totally get this post. I don’t feel “out of order” or like I’ve been saying yes to too many things, but I have felt like I needed a bit of a break (which is why I’ve disabled some commenting on my blog). It’s important to say no and to do what’s right for you–so great post!
    Oh to Be a Muse recently posted…Lookbook: Bloom EternalMy Profile

    • Whitney says

      I notice that you did that with your comments and right away, I understood. Sometimes a break is necessary. Thanks so much for reading…xo!

  4. says

    great post!! and right on time. i think you are right abt this being burnout epidemic. actually alluded to this in my latest post :)

    there’s definitely power in saying no and i’m good at it!
    Simply Chic recently posted…ETHNICMy Profile

  5. says

    This is right on point as year’s ago, I had to face reality that I cannot and will not be everything to everybody as people will see the gift in you and ‘put’ you in positions that they need you in and feel you will be great at. I had to begin to say no as I realized that being busy is not productive. In fact, I had to blog about that!

    If I need a nap, I stop and take a nap as I realize like you said that God has our lives in His hands and has the master plan.

    Great post!
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    • Whitney says

      You’re right, Yulunda. You cannot be everything to everybody…it’s exhausting. Stay blessed and keep taking those necessary naps. ;-)

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