5. Use a Calendar About once a month, Darrius and I sit down and go over our family calendar. From birthday celebrations and date nights to doctor’s appointments and trips home (for Darrius), we like to be sure that important dates are blocked off and planned for ahead of time. There’s an erasable calendar in our kitchen that I fill out monthly. If there’s an event or special occasion coming up, it’s on the calendar. We schedule our own doctor’s visits and any other medical appointments on our own, using our iPhone calendars.