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#WNJInspired | 2 Years Down, Through Sickness & Health

May 12, 2015 by Whitney 24 Comments

Yesterday hubby and I celebrated our 2 year anniversary. Thinking back on our year, I am extremely blessed and thankful. Last year we both dealt with some health issues and to be honest, I encountered some dark days. Yes, I broke down a time or two. However, it wasn’t because I was sick. When I’m sick, I can handle it. I roll with the punches and keep getting up. But when my husband was diagnosed with diabetes, I was heartbroken. I was numb.

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Realizing that your best friend and partner in life is sick puts life in perspective real quick. It makes you stronger as a person, but also as a unit. You have to be strong for the other person and deal with your breakdowns in private. God knows there were times I thought I wasn’t going to make it, but by His grace I remained strong, my faith tested but not lost.

I’ve never seen him in the hospital and I’ve never witnesses him being somewhat helpless. I was scared, so of course the first thing I did was call my mother. Thank God for a praying and compassionate mother. I needed to know how to be strong for him. I’m always used to him being super man, handling everything and taking care of me. After talking through things with my mother and praying on my own, I realized that I could be there for him because I had to. There was no option. I made a vow to be with him through sickness and health and while that part came faster than I was prepared for, I was equipped to be his rock.

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Through dealing with Darrius’ diagnoses, we have learned quite a bit, about ourselves and our marriage. Here’s a look at 3 things we learned:

Darrius’ 2 Year Lessons

1. Put yourself in their shoes. 

2. Date your spouse.

3. Trust the pace of your relationship; move at your own pace, with guidance from the Lord.

Whitney’s 2 Year Lessons

1.  Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.”— I Corinthians 13: 7-8 

2. Pay attention to your spouse. 

3. Marriage is what you make it.

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Trust the pace of your relationship; move at your own pace, with guidance from the Lord.

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So tell me, what are some lessons you’ve learned in marriage along the way? Let me know!

As Darrius and I continue to thrive as a couple, we always remember to put God first and always have faith. My husband is getting healthier everyday – he is not allowing a diagnoses to control his life. Together, we’re fighting and we will be victorious! Marriage is fun, hard, worth it, but above all is it’s a blessing. Until next time, be blessed and stay safe…XO!

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  1. districtofchic says

    May 12, 2015 at 11:18 am

    Your post brought tears to my eyes! There’s nothing scarier than family health scares. I’m glad to hear that you all are getting through it!

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    • Whitney says

      May 13, 2015 at 10:56 am

      🙂 Thanks for reading.

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  2. Kishina says

    May 12, 2015 at 2:53 pm

    Wow, Whitney! I loved this candidly honest post from you. Like you, I’ve had to deal with my spouse becoming sick at such a young age. He was 28 when diagnosed with diabetes and we had only been married a short while. Fast forward 12 years later and we’re still chugging along. I love your tips on marriage and that is one of my most favorite Bible verses pertaining God’s definition of love. Cherish each other and I end with your quote, “Marriage is what you make it.” 🙂
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    • Whitney says

      May 13, 2015 at 10:57 am

      Thank YOU for reading! And for sharing that with us. XO!

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  3. Jennie says

    May 12, 2015 at 3:23 pm

    Thank you for such a hearfelt post. This truly touched me. Thinking about you both as you move forward. Loved reading your lessons! So true.
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    • Whitney says

      May 13, 2015 at 10:58 am

      Thank you for receiving the post, Jennie. I really appreciate it!

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  4. FabEllis says

    May 12, 2015 at 3:58 pm

    Happy Anniversary you two! God is simply amazing and I’m so thankful for both of you. You know you, Whitney, have been a blessing to me as I was preparing for marriage last year. I’m so thankful to see D is taking control of his health and not letting anything stop him. I will continue to pray for you guys. Thank you for being an example of not only black marriage, but Christians.
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    • Whitney says

      May 13, 2015 at 10:58 am

      You’ve been such a blessing to us, Ash. Thank you!

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  5. Stacie says

    May 13, 2015 at 10:31 am

    Thank you for being so candid about what you two have been going through. My husband has diabetes as well. It’s a struggle but I know we can get through it. Thanks for the reminder to be more encouraging.
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    • Whitney says

      May 13, 2015 at 10:59 am

      🙂 Thank you for taking the time to read, Stacie. We will all definitely get through it!

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  6. Robyn says

    May 13, 2015 at 10:35 am

    Congrats to you both! Such a lovely couple! I am glad that you are learning and growing through the various bumps in the road of life together! Thanks for sharing your lessons learned:) Marriage definitely is what you make it and dating your spouse is such a priority!

    Robyn
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    • Whitney says

      May 13, 2015 at 11:00 am

      Thanks, Robyn! 🙂

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  7. Camesha | Mama Motivator says

    May 14, 2015 at 1:10 am

    Congrats on 2 years! I wish you guys many, many more! It’s amazing how life gets really real. With prayer, you got this!
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    • Whitney says

      May 20, 2015 at 11:03 am

      Thank you So much!

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  8. Rachel says

    May 14, 2015 at 12:46 pm

    Wow thanks f

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  9. Rachel says

    May 14, 2015 at 12:49 pm

    Oops I didn’t get to finish my last comment but I was going to say thanks for sharing and being strong for Darrius and working together. Sometimes Gods plans are not our own but He works everything out for the good of those who love Him and he surely has a plan or scheme through all of this even if it means saving a marriage or appreciation in sickness and health.
    Rachelxo

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    • Whitney says

      May 20, 2015 at 11:14 am

      Thanks, Rachel! I appreciate you and your prayers and kind words. XO!

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  10. Curvy CEO says

    May 14, 2015 at 7:15 pm

    Two years already? Wow! Happy anniversary!!!
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    • Whitney says

      May 20, 2015 at 11:14 am

      Thanks, love!

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  11. Jeniese Hosey says

    May 19, 2015 at 1:21 am

    Such a good read Whitney! I am not married, but I am in a relationship and I have diabetes. Your lessons and story touched home. Happy Anniversary!
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    • Whitney says

      May 20, 2015 at 11:15 am

      Thank you! Praying you continue to live a healthy and happy life…xo!

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  12. Ashley says

    May 19, 2015 at 8:03 am

    Congrats on your two year anniversary!!! I always admire the both of you and how much love you show each other through your blog, Instagram and FB! You are a great wife to your husband and I pray that he gets stronger and stronger each day!

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    • Whitney says

      May 20, 2015 at 11:15 am

      You are so sweet, Ashley. Thank you…SO much for that message. And thank you for keeping us in prayer. Know that we are doing the same for you…xo!

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